If you attached to a wrong person and it tears your heart

As I have no my own problems, I worry about others. Today is about those who suffer because of unhappy love. The first and last time I had such tragedy in 16, afterwards all my loves (all 1) were rather comedy. Having such great life experience I would want to show my generosity and share with you a directive, which helps to cure heart’s pain.

Life is a field of miracles. You plant this field with seeds BY YOURSELF. YOU plant it with Wisdom. Wisdom, in my opinion, it is knowledge of spiritual lows and their absolute performing in practice, with pure heart and soul. So, you plant on the field of miracles love, generosity, charity and here comes HE. You notice his moral principles. You see his soul storage is empty, his goals differs from yours. He is not field-crop grower shortly.

What to do?

Keep improving YOUR field of miracles…without him.

Harvest will be brought! Be sure!

Never regret if you ever have done something good, if you have given, favored, presented, tried to understand ect.

You have done it for YOURSELF. Harvest will be brought. But you will gather it with another person. With somebody, who planted, poured, spud and looked forward to his own work even without you. But He is also field-crop grower! There is exists such men!

Don’t regret that you have met a person with other criteria and wasted your time, energy and even money.

They were not wasted! Harvest will be brought on your field of miracles.

He just is not able to get such things. He is not for you. And remember: never be jealous if he has somebody else: he seeks for what he can get more, but not what he can give more. Sympathize him, because his field of miracles is empty and nothing will grow there. Generous and empathetic person can’t be attached to greedy and harsh one, because there is no energy exchange, no shared feelings. This situation doesn’t worth warring about.

Take a vacation better!

You are not on the way with him. Give yourself “excellent” mark for generosity, kindness, total mercifulness and love. All these things will come to YOU from another side.

Be sure! Good luck! Be happy! You have passed an exam!

This divine drink

Raised in a family with cult of tea, I have usually 3-8 cups a day. It came from mother’s part, from my grand pa. While he served being young in Soviet Army in Uzbekistan, he adopted some their traditions, mixed them with army habits and introduced in our family.

Drinking tea his way was special ceremonial ritual. All family has gathered on the kitchen after rich supper. The head has taken big iron mug 0.5 l, filled up half of it with a black Georgian tea (he bought tone of it when served in Soviet Army in Georgia, we had really no tea those times in country) and another half with pour boiling water. After 10-15 minutes some young female of us were allowed to serve out other members of the family with this great chefeer. Although our cups were big, even washy drink was very black and strong. To make it taste not so bitter, we used to put 6-12 portions of sugar in. We didn’t drink from cups, but from piala (deep plates 10-15 cm D), blowing hardly on liquid to make it cooler. While drinking grand pa has argued with himself about politics and other life stuff – to argue with him was really dangerous for health. He was his own master, harsh steel founder, tempered warrior and everyone was afraid of him.

We have had a tea at home, even those times, when there was nothing. I wonder how mom has managed to get it, but it quite good suppresses hunger and gives a strength and hope to live till tomorrow, when it should going be better.

Tea also calms down nervous perfectly, especially combined with cakes and sweets, honey. I was surprised, when got known, that it is distributed to have tea with desert in Eastern Europe mainly, in other places I visited it is ok to give a tea without anything, what would seem almost like offence in here.

Nowadays a broad assortment of tea can satisfy the most capricious gourmets. One section of my kitchen cabinet is full of various tea packs, noble English tea, classic Ceylon, mysterious Chinese dragon, there is only no grand pa’s sugary chefeer, which I miss sometimes so much.

If you had a chance to return in the past or jump to future

I find my past too much scary and not sure I would be strong enough to survive once more if I’m there because last years, full of happiness, made me soft and relaxed.

Just regret about several accidents, when acted meanly in the past, it would worth to be corrected. Those insulted people didn’t deserve what I’ve made to them and sorrow will always tear my heart.

But global, important things, which I would want to avoid in past or change somehow, they are unfortunately beyond the power. And in the end all hell what I've had gives me a taste of present’s beauty and happiness.

A future seemed to be very bright and if it is not, I am sure it can’t be worse than past for sure, prefer to have nice surprises day by day than to know how everything will happen.

Really feel shame to be too much careless, happy and satisfied…

About weight

Never thought this issue will worry me ever, but after last visit to smart people in white gowns it became a real object for reflection. There is one interesting esoteric doctrine, which says our weight besides nutrition is result of our emotions, character as any other disease.

Reason for growing weight is fear. When you afraid something, you make additional armor, layer of fat. So, fat people at first must think about their sources of fear, worries and uncertainty. It is proved by researches without any esoteric when man under continuous stress (fear is kind of stress), his organism starts production of adrenalin and cortisol hormones. They provoke additional kilograms. So, before start diets and hard physical training overweight man must look into his life and put it in good order. Another extreme leading to overweight is phlegm and placidity. This works for my best female friend, plump cutie, who never cares about worst troubles, always kind-hearted and in good humor. Last year she decided to lose weight and started crazy diet. She eats nothing except lot of water and sour milk, a little apples and cabbage. It almost hasn’t helped, but when her husband lost his job and she was forced to find some work, first in her life, her weight magically started to reduce.

And what to do if you eat huge portions 5 times a day and keep losing weight? Thanks to modern fashion it is never a problem for girl, but kind of blessing, when you can eat chocolate cakes, big Macs, sweet fizzy water and always remain slim. However there comes a time when woman must gain 8-16 kg in quite short period. And if she doesn’t, fetus eats all her resources, mother suffers from hard anemia, low pressure and in the end baby comes underdeveloped and mother can even die due lack of blood and weakness.

Esoterists say thinness is result of sadness. Slim people used to be melancholic, introversive, sad and worrying for trifles. I would want to add another reason - is disability to swallow informational food. It is like you read big difficult book fast but afterwards can’t remember even a line from it, or even if you remember you never use those dead knowledge and forget them soon as useless. It is typical picture for intellectual people, who read tones of books, study languages which they don’t use and whose heads are huge store of abstract data, needless for real life. If such bookworm wants to have normal complexion, s(he) must stop or reduce eating rubbish mental pabulum. It is better to make a pause, and try to use information, which is inside own mind, simply to use own brains, to stomach what you’ve ate yet.

A visual proof for above recommendation was my experience. While vacation I’ve slept 14-16 hours a day and haven’t done any mental activity, but swum, danced and walked a lot. It helped me to gain missed kilos for two weeks. After return I lost everything at the same two weeks! Amount and quality of food at home was better, physical activities are less, but only 6-8 hours for sleeping and 8-9 hours for complicated and hateful mental work made their black deed.

Rabbi

Last day of weekends we decided to spend in Uman. It is small Ukrainian town in 200 km on South from Kiev famous for Sophievka (Sophievskiy park). The day was very hot, I visited this park twice before and prices since last visit were unpleasantly impressive. So till the lunch I was done with park and wanted to end up in some nice café, what was really hard to find. Then we remembered it is some Jewish relic in there, so it could happen there could be good kosher restaurant. This was true, we found little Jerusalem in Uman outskirts. There were males with paces and little round hats on the top of head, females mainly in long skirts, older are veiled and it is in 35 grad heat! By the way I noticed jews and egyptians look similar, I mean face lines.
I was like to see the relict. Such places sometimes could be helpful and curing. All sings were in Hebrew, and local people were not glad to show the path. Only one woman, who cell me veil, agreed to show the grave of Rabbi Nahman. It was situated in synagogue. Building is separated for men and women – for men it has front entrance, for women are back. They didn’t let to enter to my husband, because he was dressed wrong way, but they let me go inside. There were spacious room with benches and narrow tables with lots of prayer books. Several women prayed loudly, rocking themselves to and fro in trance. Several others silently read their pray. I came to grave, put corners of my veil and palms on it and asked Rabbi Nahman to make my veil protective and help me to survive while delivery. When I came out, I saw my husband fighting with security guardians, he was nervous, that I’m too long there, and guardians didn’t let him to come in. He took me away and leaved that place fast, dinner we had in road café.

Man or woman, whose life is better?

That was too much funny discussion, can't resist publishing it. I don't really sure if it is better to be a woman then a man, but I definitely positive to keep own origin for everyone and to not try living seriosly the way of opposite sex.

A(f): Did I tell you how much I wish I had been born a man?

B(f): Are you serious? You would want to be a man? Oh….imagine, everyone expect you to be strong, never cry, your girlfriends would try hard to get presents and money from you. Man has no right to be weak and emotional. His sense of life is to provide family and be on worthy level with other men – good car, house, beautiful wife ect. If man has none of it, he is deeply unhappy and feels himself worthless. Woman’s life is much easier and more sensible seems to me… And man's body is less attractive them woman's. We are such round, soft, plastic and delicate everywhere :)

A(f): 1. For a man it's much easier to find a job (evading military service is not such a big problem nowadays:)));
2. If a man doesn't have a posh car and mansion, it's not a crime and as for me, it doesn't make him unworthy;
3. Menfolk never go through childbirth torment and don't have troubles with menstruation;
4. If a man had a lot of lovers they would call him Casanova, but if a woman had a lot of lovers they would call her a whore;
5. According to what I've heard from religion, all women are sinners from the start, just because they are women, and all the men are nearly saints (what a nonsense!);
6. Men never suffer so hard and long as we do after breaking with sweethearts. After all, it's a man who usually dumps a woman, and when a woman casts away a man, it's most often for the purpose of avoiding him being the first to do it...

And no doubt, men still have more rights than women do (IMHO).

About attractivity: there are a lot of handsome men, aren't there?

B(f): 1. Woman doesn’t need a job at all, she can find a man, who cares about her and she will be treated as worthy (good housewife or caring girlfriend). Man who would try to attach rich woman and live for her cost is miserable Alfonse.
2. It is not a crime for you? Who would you chose between two equally good men, one with posh car or bus passenger? We have to choose the worthiest, to provide our posterity. We can’t let losers be fathers of our children and degenerate whole population.
3. Childbirth is not a torment, it’s the greatest gift for a woman, as well as pregnancy, just imagine, you are giving a new life to a tiny innocent creature or little soul grows in your womb, and day by day you are giving all your love and care to it…Men so poor because aren’t able to have such experience. Agree, periods sucks, but they have troubles also with pollutions and their hornyness. Once I was walking after the lady in the short skirt, so short that it was possible to recognize her pants fashion, and it was so fun to witness men reaction. They became just paralyzed for several minutes. They couldn’t walk, talk, drive a car….were able just to watch with hungry eyes…We are not that weak, thanks God.
4. Yes, we are blamed to have a lot of lovers in all times…but is it really needed to sleep with all them? I mean, we can have a lot of friends, give them a little hope and use for our needs so called "frendship" between m and f, manipulating their feelings as much as they manipulate ours, been dishonest and sleeping around. It is not prohibited. In this case you are just sociable and sweet. We are not horny, we don’t need a lot of lovers at the first place, even one man is too much enough sometimes...
5. Well, agree. The authors of religious texts are men. This should be taken into consideration. In real, we almost never kill or fight, we less depraved, giving life creatures are defenitely closer to God.
6. If you are interested and have time or, read this - http://protopop.chat.ru/tl3.html. He turned my perception of relationships inside out. There are only rare men who dare to cast away women, usually it is only our initiative, direct or indirect. Men suffer the same.
It is like with women, there are some cynical women and men who don’t suffer, and there are romantic and emotional women and men who suffer.

Yes, they have more rights and MUCH more responsibilities. Nowadays woman formally is allowed to do everything what a man do, the question is - does she really need do all that…

Really handsome man is very likely a gay. It’s a shame for a man care to much about appearance. In general, they less attractive then we are, they have ruder lines.

C(m): So funny to read your comparisons between men and women. My impression is that women never realize what freedom means to a man. Women in most cases want to take control over you. They would always demand your care and attention. Yet I never met a self-sufficient woman. That would herself be responsible for her emotional ups and downs. I hate to see women expecting men to make them happy. That's so childish and inmature.

B(f): OMG, why men care so much about their freedom, instead of giving us all their time, care, attention and credit cards, that would make us really happy :))))

...One more reason, why I would hate to be a man, nobody annoys me with such cheeky requests!

Continued here...

The House mouse

A tiny animal has 6-9 centimeter long and 12 – 30 gram weight. A sexual dimorphism is a feebly marked. It is able to recognize light and darkness. The human fetus has the same properties on the 9-10 week of its life.

The house mouse makes majority human females scream in fear. The germ makes scream in fear human males. The females, in general, it makes cry and laugh without any reason, feel sleepy and hungry 24 hours a day, and often it gives continuous feeling as if you have drunk bottle of vodka mixed with bear without any snack food (who has never drunk it, just imagine acute food poisoning).

What's" Your Personality Type?

You Are An INFJ

The Protector

You live your life with integrity, originality, vision, and creativity. Independent and stubborn, you rarely stray from your vision - no matter what it is. You are an excellent listener, with almost infinite patience. You have complex, deep feelings, and you take great care to express them.
You would make a great photographer, alternative medicine guru, or teacher.

What's" Your Personality Type?

P.S: The fun thing I make all the activities above, but how did they recognize?

The gypsy magic (part II)

It was long-awaited unique chance! I nodded my approval and was asked to hide behind the trees from people for best concentration. The only thing which I was worrying about that moment was disability to remember later how she will have made the trick. I fixed all my attention on everything what she has done so that to describe it step by step in details.

She started to ask a lot of questions, name, age, status, name of relatives, first love, last love ect. While I was answering, she has tied in a bungles white thread and commanded to count them. It was really hard to count bungles while you trying to restore your first love name, think, that moment usually simple victims loosing concentration and became compliant for picking the money.

When she finished her examination and tying, she asked sternly, like school teacher, how many bungles she has made. As in school I was cunning, when you have no idea about the subject, that they were 11. She asked again if I really sure they weren’t 12. What an old teacher’s trick, of course I was sure. She promised me a great unhappiness if it was lie. I didn’t know the worse unhappiness than failed exam, but seemed it hasn’t threatened me this time.

Then I was asked to show the ears - if the Venus planet keeps them open (?!), neck – if the Mars saves it from gallows, hands – if the Jupiter provides them with strength.
While I was thinking about planets and ears, she noticed the amount of jewelry and asked me to put in her hand a yellow metallic thing. I suggested a coin she rejected, arguing this is a bad metal, because has traveled too much through different people’s hands. Then wedding ring was proposed, it also was refused, because “you will stay single forever if you give it to somebody” and “it is too serious sin for her to make me unattached with a crown of celibacy”, so I get the yellow metal thing wasn’t supposed to be returned.

Finally I gave up, and said that I really don’t know what the thing she was wanting from me and let she would better say it directly. She ordered me to turn 3 times through right shoulder, every time behind my back she has told some pray, directed to clarify my future for her. Next she asked me to whirl quickly 9 times, which actually not too difficult if you practice dancing every day. When I finished she said I have to take off the chain with Christ and give it to her hand. This was impossible technically, as chain never has been taken off and lock stuck long ago.

Afterwards she started a long speech about some old woman, who tries to put the evil-eye on me, and the only chance to avoid the coming troubles is to give her a paper with two zero from pocket. It was almost an hour during we have frayed each others nerves, both tired and disappointed, so I gave up waiting the moment to be hypnotized or at least to feel whatever sorcery, not mentioning any reasonable predictions or facts from the past. I must say that my qigong instructor able to show much more wonders and they really amazing.

Anyway, she got some money for missed time, chocolate and corporate pencil to her children. As gratitude I was promised to find a little fortune in the nearest future. It was the only one true, because I finally found the way to a metro station and left Novobelyichi healthy and wealthy.

I still wonder if the Gypsy magic exists, if they really have any knowledge how to hypnotize and manipulate people’s consciousness or read the fate lines on the palms. I wouldn’t feel sorry for paper with two zeros to witness or experience such talents.

The gypsy magic (part I)

Everybody knows about inexplicable ability of gypsy women to deceive credulous people into giving all their gold and money by making mysterious manipulations. Personally I’ve heard hundreds similar stories from my mother, grandmothers, female friends. All those stories have always the same subject:

One my female acquaintance N* was walking alone, when came across a Gypsy woman/several Gypsies/Gypsies with children. N* tried to avoid talking to them, but Gypsies gathered her round and asked to give a hand to predict her fate. N* has thought: “Nothing bad will happen if I show her my hand, what if she really knows my fate”…Then some strange mystery happens and N* has found herself alone without any gold and money. And what is the worst - without any memory of how everything happened.

All stories so much impressed my imagination that I’ve tried to find any contact with those enigmatical folk and check personally if they really able to make the described miracles.

The one Gypsy, whom I knew, was male. He belonged to great clan of drug traders in our region, was owner of pair incredible black eyes and had a very wild temper. His mystery has worked for girls without a hitch. Victims weren’t able to describe experience distinctly on the second day as well. But looking at their dreamy face I guess they didn’t regret about what they’ve lost. Anyways it wasn’t that magic, which I was looking for.

Another gypsy family had a clothes shop near my parent’s shoe shop. Actually they (Gypsy) also have sold drugs there and shop was only for closing authorities eyes. As it was family very special business, the only women were working there (according to our lows woman can be justified more easily). I must say they were really attractive, smiling, coquettish and so playful, until they haven’t sold you some crap from their poor assortment. Such a magic isn’t interesting, as any woman able to perform it since very early age, if she has the smallest belief in her attractiveness.

Recently I’ve got a chance to meet the real Gypsy fortuneteller. It was evening, on Friday 9th (pay attention, “9” it is an upturned devil’s “6”). I was in unknown part of the Kiev, trying to find one recommended dressmaker address, first last and all the time lost path among the same grey buildings. Cell’s accumulators have run down, so, it was impossible to order a taxi. Exhausted and upset I dragged myself along the streets without any hope to get out Novobelyichy’s jungles safe and sound.

Suddenly I met a pregnant veiled woman in long many-colored skirts with two little swarthy boys. She was passing by with no emotions, until has noticed my amazement. She stopped, smiled and said “Hey beauty, I like you so much, but see some bad sign above your head, would you like me to take it off?”.

Enjoy your life

It was a cold moist Kiev evening. Morning pure snow mixed with dirt has turned at the end of the day into dark gray squash, sticking to wheels and boots of rare travelers. All good families were at home this late time, having their nice warm dinners or watching family shows together.
They have been resting before long and hard working week, so that to put a double effort on Monday in their offices and schools, and in the end to have well-earned weekends. What an endless and meanless process it is, to live for work and to work for a living!

The multicolored shop windows, lonely empty streets and cozy yellow light of high blocks with thousands of happy and not very much families threw me down into thinking of what I was doing there, in a big city, wandering alone. Where is my family, my old parents, my the only one sister, my happiness, my light in the window, always patiently waiting for me, for whom I’m always welcome. All those questions and weather has inspired me for pitting myself.

You can’t be happy all the time, sometimes it is necessary to suffer a bit. It gives you a sweet taste of real happiness at the end. So, I started to complain about my bad fate. How unfair it was to born in such a family, where you never have any support or at least little approval, just the smallest praise. Why everything you must do always on your own? How unfair it was to be thrown so early into crazy adult life circulation. Why you must be always strong and take account only of yourself? I want be weak, I need care, I’m so tired to fight with whole world, I’ve earned my pension yet!!

Thinking that miserable and hysterical way and driving slowly along a ring road towards the home I saw THEM. Night queens of the roads, object of pilgrimage for big fat connoisseurs from all over the world of famous Slav beauty (famous of their cheap prise). Huddled up from the frost they were worn in a way possible shortest skirts and jackets without any tights (and pants as I may guess) and looked very self-confident and provoking. Some drivers were so kind to give a lift to ladies this frozen evening. Happily selected one has slowly got into the car to so much kindhearted gentleman and again with a great honor on her face.

Right that moment I realized how much happy I’m! If you shouldn’t serve unknown freaks in the weekend evening on the road in the frost you may name yourself one of the happiest women in the world! If you have a family that will never let you fall down so low, it is the best family. And your temporary difficulties are nothing comparing to one of those lost girls. Step on the gas, and at a full speed I drive through my life, full of fun challenges, enjoying every kilometer. Dreadful pictures rushes past my tinted glass sometimes, but nobody see that I’m scared. A lot of place in my salon, but the only one and the same passenger will always share it with me till the point of destination. You have to belive the next turn will bring new excitement, unexpected possibilities, new hopes and the sea of joy.

Pilgrimage to the saint Antony caves, Chernigov

When you lost your path, get entangled with your wishes, goals and plans, you have to take a pause. If you need to think, looking for a good solution, change the usual rapid atmosphere of the huge-city and sink into the silent peaceful world of monastery.

Unfortunately Kiev-Pechersk Lavra is overused yet. Crowds of vulgar noisy tourists wander the narrow trails and caves on its territory. They have no respect to the object of worship, girls dare to enter the temple in the short skirts with uncovered heads and men show their naked shoulders and legs in the summer and able even to smoke, shame and sorrow on them.

St Antony, teacher of monks, 1000 years ago had founded two the greatest cave monasteries in Ukraine, in Kiev on Pechersk and in Chernigov on Boldin Mountain. The second one is still remains in a shadow for tourists, although thousands of Christian Orthodox believers every year make a pilgrimage there.

Caves have always attracted people by its mystery. The Earth interiors were used from the ancient time for sacral activities. They usually contain heavy energetic accumulations and have often used for spiritual practice. In Christian traditions monks use caves for practice called Schema – the highest level of uniting with God and demising of world.

Schemonk (the monk who practices Schema) spends most of the time in the little camera in cave, praying to God and making special rituals. He may not eat or even drink anything for months or even years, staying substantial by the Holy Spirit. The obligatory monastic vows for Schemonk are chastity, immateriality, obedience and humility. Truly Schemonks are able to cure patients by the pray, to know the future and do other various miracles.

Thanks to mobility the pilgrimage nowadays is not a big deal. 2 hours for 165 km of Ukrainian roads and from bustling, polluted Kiev and you are transferred to cosy, friendly Chernigov, one of our oldest cultural centres.

People don’t hurry up there, massive high blocks don’t press down on you towering above and lot of trees, park, gardens everywhere, even on the main square.

Travelling in Ukraine has a common trait - you can hardly meet the crowds of tourists and may walk alone in the most beautiful places. But there is a disadvantage that you are not able to find any service as well, neither guide-boards, nor maps for travellers.

After going round the city for half an hour finally the Boldin Mountain with st Antony’s caves were found. It was astonishing that territory of the monastery remains almost invisible. The only wood monument of an old monk points to its possible place.

Through the door in small stone building you fall into the underground temple, amazingly spacious and bright, alighted by the candles on the walls. From the temple you can get to the numerous tunnels of upper and lower levels of the caves. A general extent of the all passes is 350 m. An interesting fact that lower level of the caves have never mentioned in any written evidence, although examination approves their ancient origin. It testifies to their special secret purpose.

In many places you may see relics of Schemonks, who have practiced the Great Schema centuries ago. Usually visitors have feelings of fear, horror, pressure of the ceiling and the only one wish to leave the more quickly the better. I felt myself very comfortable. The presence of some pure light spirit has wrapped the mind around, giving the long-awaited peace. Unfortunately guardians didn’t let to stay there long and asked to leave everybody before the sunset.

Satisfied and tired after wandering along the monastery and churches you may want to have a dinner in the Ukrainian restaurant. Don’t expect to find it Chernigov. The Potato House, Sushi bar and McDonalds are the only places where you can find warm food. Something wrong goes with traditional Ukrainian cuisine. I do not get why it is not popular any more.
Visit to Chernigov undoubtedly will remain the bright impression to any person who has faith in the heart and seeks Him.

The Granddad Frost, his Snow Maiden and Russian Christmas

Provided to be there are people, who don’t know how the Christmas celebrats in Russia and who are the main personages of this greatest fest.

To speak in a roundabout way there were no Christmas in Russia officially, as it was banned in a soviet era. All Christian attributes of Christmas were replaced by neutral non-religious things, partly borrowed from paganism. Now the Christian traditions attempt to recover, but the roots were lost and not too much people take these innovations seriously.

Instead of Christmas Russians used to celebrate the coming of a New Year. It comes in the night of 31st December.

In the middle of the night the Granddad Frost comes through the window and brings presents.

The figure of Granddad Frost is a spirit of winter, a mighty hero, a furrier, who able to forge water by iron frost. He also often identifies as a impetuous winter winds. In some folk tales he helps travelers in the snowstorm to find their lost path.

Granddad Frost is a high, mighty old man with thick straight white-silver beard and hairs. These details besides physical definition of old age mean power, happiness, wellness and richness.

A fur coat is long, covering legs, blue or red, embroidered with silver and diamonds. A list is made by swan’s fluff.

A hat is red, has a half-oval form, also embroidered with a silver and brilliants, bordered with swan’s fluff.

Three fingered gloves of white color with silver ornament – as symbol of purity, saint and holiness of everything what goes out his hands.

A belt is white with red ornament – is a symbol of connection with ancestry.

The silver or red top-boots with cocked toes are on his feet.

He has a crystal or silver staff with waved, like a moon handle in the bottom, or with a head of a bull instead (symbol of fertility and happiness).

The Snow Maiden is unique attribute of a Granddad Frost. The figure of Snow Maiden aka Snegurochka is a symbol of stark water. Some tales said that she is brought to life snow woman.

She is a girl about 14-18 y.o. in white clothes. Her head is covered by octal-rayed crown, ornamented by silver and brilliants. She is very beautiful, has blue eyes and long thick white hairs, put in a plait.

Her relations with Granddad Frost are not recognized, some sources say she is his Granddaughter, others stand for mistress.
She is also very smart, quick and able, what makes a new version that she moreover is a secretary of a Frost boss.
Anyhow it is, her role in the New Year fest is to help Granddad Frost to distribute the gifts. And those unrecognizable relations are used for great source of smutty jokes.

Granddad Frost and his girlfriend Snow Maiden comes and puts gifts under the Yolka. Yolka it is a New Year tree, decorated with toys and candies.
The custom of decorating New Year trees was introduced to Russia by Peter the Great, after he visited Europe during the 1700's. Since ornaments were either very costly or unavailable, family trees were trimmed with homemade decorations and fruit. Yolka comes from the word which refers to a fir tree.

In the night of 31st December all people drink champagne and vodka, eat Oliv’e(Russian salad) and dance around the New Year Tree (not Christmas Tree!), interrupting only for listening presidents speech. After president's speach chimes beats 12 times, people clink full beakers and wish each other Happy New Year, it sounds like "S Novym Godom!".

Obliko-Morale

When the Universe turned from chaotic to a well-ordered subsistence, the life was engendered and the first people’s society appeared. Three simple rules regulated it from a previous chaos:
1. Prohibition to eat a totem.
2. Prohibition to have a forbidden woman.
3. Prohibition to kill a member of group.
Violation of these rules leaded to regression, disorder and destruction. All current religions are based on these precepts and every cultural moral leads its roots from the above statements.
However it was allowed to break above rules in two cases – during the war and during the fest. When one of these two events was taking place, a society’s system for a while had returned to chaotic state, releasing energy, and in the end it had gone up on the new stage of developing. In all other cases human is not allowed to break main rules of order.

The phantom

Ancient sages discovered that the time flows by spiral. In the moments when convolutions come near we get "déjà vu" effect, and if they intersect, we are able to travel in time.
Today I witnessed the miracle, an alive arrival from past. It was in the early gray morning. The slow moving car queue on the Vozduhoflotskiy Bridge, worm stove and silent uncertain music lulled to sleep. Wired sensations like watching the same shots of old-known movie fulfilled me, and then it suddenly appeared, gorgeous, new and shining like a New Year toy. It had black numbers with 4 digitals on the snow-white desk and virgin cleanly windows. Awaked in a moment I followed with bated breath the legend of soviet’s cars production, the great VAZ-2101, until it passed out of sight behind a turning.
In actual fact, there was so strange in that not the car model. Kopeyka (coin, popular nick of this car) still is the everyday occurrence on the Ukrainian roads, although it was taken out of production in 1984. The strange was its fresh, new condition. It looked like just went out the plant, with no weird “Sparko” sticker or toned glasses tuning. If I didn’t need go to office, I would drive to time traveler and would tell him shocking truth about the future.
As I know it was the first attested intersection of time spiral on the Kiev road. Undoubtedly, this event of transferring the substance from past must be registered in annals of history.

What the love is...

Recently I found a popular-scientific article, written by Anatolity Protopopov.
His work is kind of view on relationships from the angle of sexual selection. The author’s thesis seemed to me well-founded and explaining lot of things, which I couldn’t answer earlier.

Protopopov marks out two types of selection: natural and sexual. The first one is based on the statement that individual organisms with favorable traits are more likely to survive and reproduce than those with unfavorable traits. This way of selection is very slow, as it is very passive process. And this type of selection almost doesn’t work for humans world with our current humanity, high level of life, medicine ect.

But thanks God, we will not deteriorate and evolution didn’t stop, as we have the second type of selection, much faster and effective.
It calls sexual selection and was discovered first time by Darvin. It formulates as - individual organisms with favorable traits are more likely to take part in reproduction and leave their posterity.
In the animals world it works like only few the strongest, lead males are allowed to match with all females of population. Others males are out of work and pretend not to want.

With example of animals author determined instinctual breeding behavior for the males:

For realization of advantages of sexual selection males tend to match the biggest amount of females. They are fighters for AMOUNT of posterity, as their number of prolificacy is unlimited.

So, for males is a very natural target – more of good and different female bodies.

With the same reason the females, having limited posterity, tend to the highest QUALITY of their children. Thereby the females are exactly this selecting subject. They interested in the enlarging of a range of the potential partners, as this lightens the choice of the best one, rejecting others.

Thus, the normal breeding instinct of a female – the more different and good male’s hearts.

On the strength of above statements author makes an analysis of men’s dominant lines, polygamy, wife’s adultery and lot of others interesting deductions.

The whole article is here.

Banabak*

Etymology, the science of word’s formation history is one of the most interesting and enigmatic. It enlightens unbelievable connections between folks.

Today in the lunch time I ran to a jewelry shop to check out an assortment and select something beautiful for my coming birthday. There I met a man, the oriental one, also buyer. He asked, what attracted me at the showcase. I was like, everything! He was like, you are exactly similar my wife this way, we burst out laughing.

Two teenagers, passing over, called him banabak.

In a moment man from joyful and humorous turned into furious and offended. He sent them some curse in his language.

I recognized it was Turkish, and asked not to pay attention to non-cultural teens. He involved me in the discussion of meaning the word "banabak".

Literally, in Turkish “bana bak” equals to “look at me”, “look here”.

Mert (my recent interlocutor) idealized martial Turks. He thought, that roots of formation this word traces back to Turkish-Russian battles. I was standing for the more recent times.

He said solemnly with vehemence of the real oriental: "Turks never used to kill a man, turned back to them, during the combat brave Turkish warriors demanded from enemy to look into their eyes. They shouted – Bana bak! bana bak! - brandishing a saber and Russians started to call them and others Orientals with this word.”

"O, Mert – I said slightly graciously, - I think, everything is mush easier! No doubts, it was traditional treatment of hot-tempered Turkish-speaking and other Asians ... males to our locals, especially to females ones. Well, they have to attract attention to themselves some way, even if they don’t know a language. But our mocking beauties made an offensive nickname of this word.
It made him laugh again, but unfortunately our further talk deviated from etymology subtleties, I lost interest and took a leave.
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*Banabak – abusive curse, applied to people with oriental appearance – black hairs, eyes and swarthy skin, quite popular in the Ukraine and south of Russia…

East or West, where to go?

Discussion about the cultural identity in the whole world is caused by complex of attitude to the West. Almost all people in the world are trying to live in the west style. But since they noticed, that West doesn’t consider them equals and worth, they become disappointed, annoyed, and have a tendency to stand on their own values. They criticize a western depravity, corruptness and atheism, but live in the houses, equipped in a western style, drives the imported cars. Main part of the discussion about the West and East has no real basement. When people exchange by their perceptions about foreigners, and have no real basement, their polemic is just an empty crap.

Orientals say, as if in the West there are harsh individualism without any respect to parents and old people, a perverse sex and violence. I observe 8 year marriage life of my sister with European in Germany. I visited France, Holland, Belgium and lived in families there, so after all can say in the firm belief that this view has no connection with norms in the West.

Individualism lets human be free (relatively, as in the West there are some attachments also), and doesn’t affect other humans rights in the same time. In the West there are no morality code, written or non-written, which forces to respect their parents. People in the West just without it love their parents and friends very much. In other words, in the West natural human felling of sympathy and love joins people together instead of forced religion and other morals.

Way of living in the West is unpretentious. The only little minority are ably to let themselves “Porsche” or “Jaguar”. Europeans don’t seek for the new models of mobiles. They spend a main part of their incomes for education of their children, for vacation and equipment of their houses. I know from reliable source, that wife of Minister Economics in Germany once helped her son, when he was injured, to reap a harvest, she drove tractor by herself, though she was able hire workers for sure. Orientals also identify West with a luxurious life. In fact, in the West moral dignity and freedom are more valuable then materialistic goods.

I still haven’t decided how to identify myself, I relate to Russian as well as to Ukraine, and I can’t decide if these countries western or eastern. Last time I have carried away to the East as it was always antipode to that western materialistic culture.

I’ve thought eastern morale was able to improve ambiguous western cult of personality, which I’ve thought ignores interests of other people. But, I was fallen in love with phantom of the East.
I tried it on, as a new dress or cosmetic, as it was the last word in fashion here.

And I had lack of objective overview about other civilizations. Lot of old stereotypes I got from school, university and mass media. According to my stereotypes, every oriental is exceptionally spiritual, has own spiritual teacher. Whole day long they pray and spend time in meditations and talking to God. When they are not pray, they work for their family well-being. They never drink, never eat drugs and don’t do any crime, as lows of Shariat so stricted. Every woman is master of bellydance and example of honor same time. It was a little problem with legalization of male’s polygamy, but, well, where they are not polygamous? It is even better, as they honestly marry all their passions. I will not mention myths about Far East, they even more silly…

This East doesn’t exist. Values and mentality of people change with economical development. Typical example is Western Europe, which doesn’t inherited Greek and Roman civilizations straightly. After Germans destroyed them, Europeans have lived a primitive life. Greek and Roman knowledge were inherited by Arabs and natural sciences have developed in the near East and central Asia. The Europeans imitated Greece-Roman culture from the Byzantium and Arabs. After “epoch of great navigation” Europeans monopolized a trade flow to the East, a center of the wealth and worlds trade in that time, and riches in the America. Modernization of Europe started that time with a changing of social order, manners of communicating, values and mentality, developing of economics and science.

Statement of western Europeans that freedom and democracy is the only way of development, that only Europeans were able to develop science, it is nothing but arrogance and a lack of knowledge about their history.
Freedom and democracy in its current appearance were formed only at the beginning of 20 century. And it is not a reason, but consequence of development.
Other nations are able to develop science as well as democracy.

And well, my conclusion: it is better to stay somewhere in the middle, taking the best from both sides...

Thank you for taking off my pink glasses

I suspected of availability too much attention to a woman in eastern country. That seemed to me fun character, peculiar properties of simple people in there. I lived several months in Turkish quarter of Frankfurt-am-Main, there lived not only Turks but Arabs as well, and probably because all emigrant feel sympathy of each other among often aggressive locals, I liked contact them more then Germans. They were friendlier, easy-going, ready to help, and more close to me by way of artfulness, playfulness, and their not-so-easy open-heartedness, so common for Russians, what goes to our Asian part of roots.
I adored oriental culture, religion, food, music, and dance. Most of my impressions were formed by Mirzakarim Norbekov ideas, old nice naive soviet’s movies, relations with our local Muslims, dance-teachers from Egypt and Lebanon, which lessons I have luck to visit in Kiev and visiting all cultural oriental-related events in here. Their immateriality, spirituality attracted me so much, each of them easily quotes the whole Koran. It was so uncommon, comparing with our totally atheistic society. Respectable, virtue, modest veiled women, responsible, never drinking, mighty men, hospitable, kindly, hearty families – they seemed just paradise society. Religious extremism was not so valuable argument against my blind adoration of traditions, any family has a freak (Russian proverb) and each finger is different (usually heard this proverb from Orientals).
But the fact I read recently turned inside out all my perception of things.
On October 23rd and 24th, after Ramadan finished, in the down town of Cairo crowd of men used sexual violence to women, who were unlucky to be on the streets those days. As I got, there were no difference, were they veiled or not, were they old or young, alone or with children\husbands\relatives. Just monstrous fact, men started suddenly group assault to any female in a radius of their view. And what is more terrible, that some part of society seriously assumes the victims were guilty. THEY JUSTIFY AND EVEN EXCUSE THOSE MALE PERVERTED ANIMALS.
Such accident could happen in European country, in war times, with hungry enemy soldiers, though they won't get away with this. But in calm time, after great religious fast, when people should be the most inspired, the most clean, in the greatest cultural Arabic center!
Each society has its own moral values, which changes with time. There is no sense for outsider to judge, using his/her values. But the lows of nature is the same for any society, any creature has its own right for safety, for life. Unnatural violence used to giving life, defenseless, godlike woman reflects great depths of naughtiness, perversity of system there.
I come to conclusion - religious doesn’t mean spiritual. I still not sure if dogmas and restrictions are good or bad. If they canceled, probably people would get back to their worst animal instincts and rivers of blood wash up their lands.
On the other hand if they stick to hard and fast rules their hot blood, exertion accumulates and run out in those awful events.
It impressed me so much, because it could happen with me. I was going to Cairo in November, on the dance fast. I dreamed so long about this trip, prepared suitable close and veils, which I thought will protect me from immodest looks and nobody will know I’m foreigner. I thought I could walk alone or in our girls’ troupe arrangement, and visit all those places I planned. Now I see what a crazy idea it was, and thanks God last moment I decided not to go. How sadly it is to let go illusion which I loved so much!

If you break the chain, you will loose 200 $ this evening

Chains annoy me very much as well as people distributing them, but they say I would have a great luck if I support it, so 15 the most likeable things:

• • To wake up without alarm, knowing that I have not to run and hurry up anywhere, but lie slugging a bed as long as I enjoy it.
• • Taking a shower, worm or relaxing hot. Watch the water flows on a skin, sing a song there. Froth bubbles, play with foam, do any water procedures. Bathroom is my favorite place in the house, after bedroom.
• • Red caviar. It is taste of luxuriance, hope for better life. A reminder of deficit time, when tins of treasures were hidden from us (children) till the New Year dinner. I buy it with every salary. The greatest stylishly is to eat it by table-spoon.
• • The New Year pre-holiday rush. Smell of oranges and needles, old-fashioned Stalin’s times toys, expectation of miracles, playing the snow balls.
• • Compliments. Especially from men, specially the deserved ones. I’m a sucker for flattery. Compliments concerning mind, virtue, personality, sense of humor are more preferable then those about appearance.
• • Dancing. It is way of expressing emotions and feelings without words, lively reflection of music, uneasy but very lovable art.
• • Performance. I wonder at people, who like extreme sport, it is so dangerous, let they better try half-naked public dance on scene once. A spike of adrenalin equal to banjo-jumping is guaranteed.
• • Long strolling about the forest with a constant friend. Picking mushrooms and berries, and listening the sounds of nature.
• • Sitting with friends around the fire in the night, on the river bank. Cooking shashliks, about-life-talking, listening tales and guitar songs.
• • Treating to lovable persons. Caring for their satisfaction and fine mood makes me really happy.
• • Grand-pa and ma memories about war. They married a month before the war, 19 y.o. librarian and 24 y.o. junior lieutenant and military doctor. Their life story will remain for me always an example of bravery, honor and truly love.
• • Jewelry. Furs. Italian fashioned leather. Silk and lace.
• • Strategic games, cards, sport games, any king of games.
• • To make fun of something. More often it is ironic and sarcastic smiling.
• • To look at the mirror. Mirrors hypnotize me, what is quite dangerous, when I drive a car. I’m thinking about gluing a little mirror on a wheel, so that I can see myself and drive at the same time.