Explanation

Previous post was a monologue of a "real man". I tried to figure out main fears of immature and irresponsible person, who thinks of getting married. And listed them in harmful advises. I think, there are so few happy unions, because people used to get married for wrong reasons.

The first stupid and the most annoying reason is pressure of friends and relatives. People hate when somebody is not like they are and they always try to push you into their line. The most active pressing you have from those, who married unhappy, they want you to try their “luck” too. And instead of enjoying your life you start in frantic haste look for somebody to get married with. As a result you are ‘normal’, not wired loner and have ‘normal’ unhappy family, emptiness in heart and life dissatisfaction.

Another reason when you want solve some your troubles, financial or others, want to get good connections or have some other expectations. This variant is better then previous, because you clearly understand what you are losing and getting, without pink glasses. It is pity only, that when men start living too sober, using brains only, they start have troubles with hearts, you know, infarctions, heart attacks ect.

Should I say the only reasons for happy marriage must be deep mutual love and respect. Love proved by time and hardships. A strong wish to care about partner and give your everything to him. Until you didn’t meet somebody you want lose “freedom” and still have fears don’t even think about marriage.

On males marriage-phobia and other woman-haters

Woman for one day, for one week, for a month and the one, who plays with men by herself, changes them often - it is the best type of a woman for Man ever. Such woman will always remain a reverie, a flight, beautiful and crazy dream, which was once in life and then has gone. It has gone to return as another flight, but with new woman. Great moments turn into great memories. She will never change into kitchen housewife, boring to death, annoying, hateful, complaining of lack of money, lack of attention, needing this and that, take out garbage, wash floors…

Stop.

Rewind tape, Man (in case you are real Man, but not a hamster-house-boy let down by your chick).
Give back time to the moment, when you stand at the altar. Pause here and RUN!!! Run, tear to pieces or eat your passport, let everyone go to hell, but you become free. Stop it, don’t let happen this crazy shit with you, this half-free-will life imprisonment, which calls marriage.

You are Man. Let your life will be full of beautiful Women. And let they will be numerous. Let they will be always new. The newer women the more attractive and excellent they are, the more burningly you will want them. Only free Woman will make you feel a real Man, not a sadistic and egoistic wife.
Only in sake of her you will make a great deeds and crimes, cruelties and generosities. To say shortly - feel like a human. Instead of living put into irons, having yours collar felt, with knife at your neck.
Free Woman, unlike your wife, doesn’t need your life. She doesn’t want drink your blood till last drop, like your wife. For Woman you are like bright new day in sparkling window of life. It is short, but ecstatic shining day. For a wife you are like a half dead cow’s body for a snake that sucking out it’s blood.

Listen, if you are Man – don’t get married.

Look at your bride, Man. Look, how beautifully she dress herself for you, how languorous and misty her eyes, how tender and affable she is with you. How tempting her behavior, making you feels like the best man in the world. How tender her nights, how amazing her moans. She puts her head on your shoulder and sweetly purring, lulling to sleep your watchfulness.
Don’t believe to this, Man! It is hunter's dance of a snake, tempting a victim. If you show a weakness, fall for tempting and get married it will be your end…

And then you will have not a Woman, you will have a wife. In bride’s tender loving languishing eyes was hidden grasping glitter of a hungry snake. If you get married twine of a vamp will straighten up and tie your neck around. You will never get rid of it and will turn into let down hamster-man like many others. If you want to be free, do not believe her. Clear up your eyes and run brother, run.
Run to a freedom, to life, to Women, to sex, to young nymphs, which will please your evenings.
Run to great deeds, to fulfillments, to your dreams.
The only dream of your wife is to set control over you and make you her property. When you kick her ass, she will cry hardly, sob violently. Do not believe, there are not tears - it is spiteful hissing of a snake which lost her catch.
If you want children – make them hundreds. But don’t agree for a marriage prison. Live like you want and do what you want.
You are free, Man. You weren’t entrapped. Be glad of your life, drink it. You need not give reports to your wife of where you have been this evening and what have done. Let miserable hamster-men without ambitions screw one molly their entire life. Let they bring eternal rent to a wife till death, instead of having every day’s fests. Don’t listen to them, bro, live life fully and get satisfaction.

Friendship and love affairs

I have a female friend Ira. She has a friend Boris fallen in love with her. She used to tell me about him and their relations, she wants nothing but friendship and some profit.
Recently her Boris, knowing I’m Ira’s friend, found me and asked to save our communication in secret. He said that hopelessly in love with Ira and going to divorce and broke his family to make proposal to Ira. He asked me how I see their relations and what do I think about everything.
I know that Ira has material interest in Boris. I know he lost this game since beginning and has no chance for anything more. But don’t feel I need open his eyes. It is female solidarity and she is my friend but he is nobody.
On the other hand I feel great sorrow for the mess in his life, and yet made a mistake talking to him and agreed for conspiracy. I gave him some hints, but he didn’t get them. Loving men do not understand hints and want remain blind.

Careless heartless big boy doesn't understand how jealousy can be too much painful.
In the morning Ira says me:” I’m thinking to break with Boris after got a new phone from him, what do you think?” In the evening Boris says me: “I love this girl more than anybody in the world but afraid she won’t be with me when I divorce, what to do?”
I’m between two fires, sympathies to both, but can’t give advices to anyone. How to quit this stupid situation?

Oh!

Better I would step barefoot on a broken glass today...It would was less painful!