Remember

Loving woman doesn't lie.

On loneliness

Одиночество – удел не уродливых людей, а людей скучных, неинтересных, людей, которые не умеют дружить и не умеют получать удовольствие от жизни.

On flirting

A doctor-psychotherapist, Naritsin Nikolay Nikolayevich, says: For many people this topic is very painful, because here exists whether substitution of concepts or substitution of the rules, or just total mess.
In real, flirt is kind of sexually marked behavior (i.e. marked by opposition of sexes!), but NOT OBVIOUSLY leading to sexual act. Even more: “Flirt is sexually marked behavior which DOESN’T LEAD to sexual act AT ALL.”
This is the root of all troubles while flirting.
Shortly about essence of flirt: it has two functions – hedonistic and communicative (i.e. pleasure and communication). That is why flirting is a great tool, where you need such functions, but doesn’t need sex as physiological process. Surely, if you need at the first place sexual relaxation, then you are prohibited to make flirting. At least, until you are sexually strained.

I would want to add, that flirting is a behavior (marking sexual difference) which can give you some non-sexual dividends, psychological or material.
For instance, when man and woman somewhere in a shop, on crossroads or in friends company “made eyes” mutually to each other, that way he and she “marked for themselves” that today they look not bad and they are not the last specimen of a kind, that they are able to be interesting to opposite sex. And then everyone went on own business, carrying “psychological satisfaction”, which gives in the end some good self-appraisal.

This is minimal dividends from flirting, but not miserable: because people do wherever they like to raise self-appraisal.

But if we proceed from flirt to more close relations, it is easy to get rejection. And as result bring down self-appraisal.

So, it turns out that flirt is good on its own, if you keep its rules, if you do not suppose to have disappointment as result of rejection. Because in the process of flirting you do not get any “proposal”, here is process is important by itself. And risk to get rude refusal is minimal in case of observance all “rules and cases of intelligent flirt”

The main rule of flirt – it is successful and safe, where society is “intellectually civilized”. And, where specific person is able to lead thin, almost diplomatic “game”, is able to see what is really going on around and process behavior and mood of a “flirt partner” and “regulate” his(er) own behavior accordingly.

On the whole, in process of competent flirting it is more important not to splash out you sexual energy, but limit it! You can eat a sweet cake piece by piece, getting great pleasure, but again you can get whole cake, when somebody threw it at your face. In that case delight turns into troubles. The same way your “communication partner” can percept your dozed and non dozed courting.
And, of course, it is important to remember, that “flirting doesn’t lead to sex and needed for another purposes.”
If you want expert flirting finishing use phrases like “See you later”, “I’ll call you somewhere” .

Unfortunately, some women and men take “good attitude”(simple delicacy) as flirt. They make wrong conclusion as “He(she) loves me!” That is way it is dangerous to flirt with such persons. :)

P.S.: I was just about visiting great cultural center, imaginative young man was about adultery, such a mess unsettled me for a week!

You are not half

Remember, it cannot be allowed to love sticky, like glue, even if you want it so much. It leads to pair splitting and pushes to cheating. You have to feel that you are personality and not partner’s shadow. Keep distance internally if you actually don’t want. There are just tales about two halves, the shortest way to failure. There are no halves, but two independent personalities. You have to be free and interesting. Not like a fly in the web of serving family goods, like a slave. Never give yourself completely, never be won over completely.

If you attached to a wrong person and it tears your heart

As I have no my own problems, I worry about others. Today is about those who suffer because of unhappy love. The first and last time I had such tragedy in 16, afterwards all my loves (all 1) were rather comedy. Having such great life experience I would want to show my generosity and share with you a directive, which helps to cure heart’s pain.

Life is a field of miracles. You plant this field with seeds BY YOURSELF. YOU plant it with Wisdom. Wisdom, in my opinion, it is knowledge of spiritual lows and their absolute performing in practice, with pure heart and soul. So, you plant on the field of miracles love, generosity, charity and here comes HE. You notice his moral principles. You see his soul storage is empty, his goals differs from yours. He is not field-crop grower shortly.

What to do?

Keep improving YOUR field of miracles…without him.

Harvest will be brought! Be sure!

Never regret if you ever have done something good, if you have given, favored, presented, tried to understand ect.

You have done it for YOURSELF. Harvest will be brought. But you will gather it with another person. With somebody, who planted, poured, spud and looked forward to his own work even without you. But He is also field-crop grower! There is exists such men!

Don’t regret that you have met a person with other criteria and wasted your time, energy and even money.

They were not wasted! Harvest will be brought on your field of miracles.

He just is not able to get such things. He is not for you. And remember: never be jealous if he has somebody else: he seeks for what he can get more, but not what he can give more. Sympathize him, because his field of miracles is empty and nothing will grow there. Generous and empathetic person can’t be attached to greedy and harsh one, because there is no energy exchange, no shared feelings. This situation doesn’t worth warring about.

Take a vacation better!

You are not on the way with him. Give yourself “excellent” mark for generosity, kindness, total mercifulness and love. All these things will come to YOU from another side.

Be sure! Good luck! Be happy! You have passed an exam!