Walking, walking on the moon

Theory about moon sucks. It doesn’t work for urban creatures like me. Having chaos in the head, have same chaos with body, no cycles, nothing certain, never know what and where is going to happen.
Haven’t slept last nights, had too many thoughts. Want so much to fall asleep and never awake. One long sweet infinite sleep isn’t it great?
I remembered experience of two people, who were dieing and shared their feelings and reflections. The first was an old lady. She lay in a bed and her granddaughter asked, what granny was thinking about in her last moments. Whether she has remembered her childhood, or may be she was thinking about God and life after death. An old respectful woman replied the one thing which was in her mind is all her lovers.
Another situation is about men, who fall out the window of 5th floor. He survived and friends used to ask him, what he felt while falling – does all his life rushed off his eyes, like in cinema? He said, no guys, there were only one thing in my head. Not a thing but a word actually. There was one short word: “F*CK!!!”
In critical situations I used to think about weird things too. I’ve thought if I’m dead, I will lie in a coffin and lot of people (huh…hopes, dreams :)) will come to part with me, and my haircut and nails must be perfect. So yesterday I went to salon and made manicure and cut hairs…I’ve never been so much beautiful before! Better I will stay alive.

Fight for kisses

What a horrible baby :) I loved this trailer!

On flirting

A doctor-psychotherapist, Naritsin Nikolay Nikolayevich, says: For many people this topic is very painful, because here exists whether substitution of concepts or substitution of the rules, or just total mess.
In real, flirt is kind of sexually marked behavior (i.e. marked by opposition of sexes!), but NOT OBVIOUSLY leading to sexual act. Even more: “Flirt is sexually marked behavior which DOESN’T LEAD to sexual act AT ALL.”
This is the root of all troubles while flirting.
Shortly about essence of flirt: it has two functions – hedonistic and communicative (i.e. pleasure and communication). That is why flirting is a great tool, where you need such functions, but doesn’t need sex as physiological process. Surely, if you need at the first place sexual relaxation, then you are prohibited to make flirting. At least, until you are sexually strained.

I would want to add, that flirting is a behavior (marking sexual difference) which can give you some non-sexual dividends, psychological or material.
For instance, when man and woman somewhere in a shop, on crossroads or in friends company “made eyes” mutually to each other, that way he and she “marked for themselves” that today they look not bad and they are not the last specimen of a kind, that they are able to be interesting to opposite sex. And then everyone went on own business, carrying “psychological satisfaction”, which gives in the end some good self-appraisal.

This is minimal dividends from flirting, but not miserable: because people do wherever they like to raise self-appraisal.

But if we proceed from flirt to more close relations, it is easy to get rejection. And as result bring down self-appraisal.

So, it turns out that flirt is good on its own, if you keep its rules, if you do not suppose to have disappointment as result of rejection. Because in the process of flirting you do not get any “proposal”, here is process is important by itself. And risk to get rude refusal is minimal in case of observance all “rules and cases of intelligent flirt”

The main rule of flirt – it is successful and safe, where society is “intellectually civilized”. And, where specific person is able to lead thin, almost diplomatic “game”, is able to see what is really going on around and process behavior and mood of a “flirt partner” and “regulate” his(er) own behavior accordingly.

On the whole, in process of competent flirting it is more important not to splash out you sexual energy, but limit it! You can eat a sweet cake piece by piece, getting great pleasure, but again you can get whole cake, when somebody threw it at your face. In that case delight turns into troubles. The same way your “communication partner” can percept your dozed and non dozed courting.
And, of course, it is important to remember, that “flirting doesn’t lead to sex and needed for another purposes.”
If you want expert flirting finishing use phrases like “See you later”, “I’ll call you somewhere” .

Unfortunately, some women and men take “good attitude”(simple delicacy) as flirt. They make wrong conclusion as “He(she) loves me!” That is way it is dangerous to flirt with such persons. :)

P.S.: I was just about visiting great cultural center, imaginative young man was about adultery, such a mess unsettled me for a week!

Enough

9:00 – Enough, I don’t drink coffee anymore, don’t eat sweets and don’t use foul language!...

17:00 - ... motherfucker!!! A candy fell into coffee!

You are not half

Remember, it cannot be allowed to love sticky, like glue, even if you want it so much. It leads to pair splitting and pushes to cheating. You have to feel that you are personality and not partner’s shadow. Keep distance internally if you actually don’t want. There are just tales about two halves, the shortest way to failure. There are no halves, but two independent personalities. You have to be free and interesting. Not like a fly in the web of serving family goods, like a slave. Never give yourself completely, never be won over completely.

:-P

Wife:
Okay, I wasn’t right. But could you at least beg my pardon?