Anesthetization manual

If somebody gave you a pain, if this pain tears to pieces your heart, life seems not joyful anymore and you are so upset you could cry, try the way out of painful situation.

Ask yourself, who is guilty? At the first place, do not seek for the guilty person. You are the only one, who is responsible for your feelings and your perception of things around you, so the guilty one for your pain is only you, everything around is the only reflection. Do you feel offended? It should be very clear, that nobody wanted offend you expressly, if you feel offence that means you got known some truth about yourself not so pleasant, as you expected. If it wasn’t truth, why did it touch you then? You are guilty, forgive yourself, be grateful to a person, who said truth about you. It happens so rare.

Ask yourself, why things were so painful? Probably you expected something, what you couldn’t expect? Fake expectations are able to turn our life into hell. Never expect anything from somebody, just be grateful if somebody gives you something, and take it as a sudden gift. Open your eyes, nobody owes you anything. And if you opened some (seeming to you important) secret of your heart to somebody, do not expect it is interesting or also important for that person. It is your gift for that person, disinterested, but unfortunately useless, let it off easily, your heart very big, loving and understanding.

Ask yourself what impressed you so much that you lost control and allowed sorrow and regrets poison your soul? You always knew everything will finish some day, and were even wondered why it didn’t finish earlier, everything is predetermined, and you can’t deceive the fate. You can’t fly if you have no wings, you can’t change unchangeable things. You can’t change yourself in a one moment and cross out the things you believed and gained through your own life experience, through the history of your nation, trough the experience of your family. Never try change anybody, never give advises if you are not asked. Do not try convincing somebody of something, if that somebody doesn’t want be convinced, doesn’t want listen, provoke you jumping to personality. And especially if a person is master of debating, and you have just experience, feelings and very poor objections, not mentioning your poor language, which makes disability to get simple arguments of opponent.

Ask yourself, what you got from this situation? Everything what happens is for better. Everything what doesn’t kill you make you stronger. Be grateful for all nice you have got. Be grateful for every great moment you had, quantity of joy, fun and nice bright feelings you had is much more valuable then your sudden sadness now. Be grateful for all things you were inspired by dear person, for beatifying and coloring your bore endless gray days, for good changes that happened with you as a result of your connection.

You answered honestly to all questions above, and blooding pain changed into calm, silent melancholy, your soul set free from bad feelings and the only love, gratitude, tenderness remained there. You discovered with pleasure that still able be carried away so madly, still believe any dream can come true, still romantic and dreamy and still hoping...