Happiness is for deserved only

We are responsible for our emotions and sufferings. Outside factors are visual and reason is inside. If suffering is unbearable then why you, victim, keep on being in that situation? Frankly answers depending on character would be:
- I afraid to quit because there could be even worse (cowardice)
- I would have to try very hard afterwards, if I quite (let I better remain that lazy and weak-willed as now)
- Somebody quitted and achieved nothing in the end (I’m lack of self-confidence, I love to inherit losers experience)
- I can’t: have no time, no opportunity, no talent, no health, no suitable age + 355 “no” (I’m just lazy and going to defend my laziness with thousands arguments)

Suffering, digging in our sadness and unhappiness gives us additional value in our eyes. It is so sweet to feel like a poor victim. Sympathize of surrounding is sweeter then honey.

Written above is related to the next situation: One person (attacker) enjoys turning into hell life of another person (victim). Victim never fights back, preferring keep distance, lose positions and support imaginative peace and respect. It makes victim feel very uncomfortable and unhappy. I don’t know how to help her.