Explanation

Previous post was a monologue of a "real man". I tried to figure out main fears of immature and irresponsible person, who thinks of getting married. And listed them in harmful advises. I think, there are so few happy unions, because people used to get married for wrong reasons.

The first stupid and the most annoying reason is pressure of friends and relatives. People hate when somebody is not like they are and they always try to push you into their line. The most active pressing you have from those, who married unhappy, they want you to try their “luck” too. And instead of enjoying your life you start in frantic haste look for somebody to get married with. As a result you are ‘normal’, not wired loner and have ‘normal’ unhappy family, emptiness in heart and life dissatisfaction.

Another reason when you want solve some your troubles, financial or others, want to get good connections or have some other expectations. This variant is better then previous, because you clearly understand what you are losing and getting, without pink glasses. It is pity only, that when men start living too sober, using brains only, they start have troubles with hearts, you know, infarctions, heart attacks ect.

Should I say the only reasons for happy marriage must be deep mutual love and respect. Love proved by time and hardships. A strong wish to care about partner and give your everything to him. Until you didn’t meet somebody you want lose “freedom” and still have fears don’t even think about marriage.